Do you know EXACTLY where to touch a woman to give her massive sexual pleasure? Have you found those “secret spots” that you know sends her into orbit, the one that makes her gasp, blush, and act really nice to you afterwards? Sure you do… You probably think you know how to give every women the best orgasm during sex. But have you ever been in a situation, or with a particular woman when your special secret spots, didn’t work at all?
The unfortunate truth for us men is that women are all different – Especially when it comes to sex and how to orgasm. What works on one, doesn’t necessarily work on another, which I suppose is part of their plan to make sure we’ll never really figure them out.
Some women know how to orgasm and can come easily with just about any partner. A woman like this really knows her own body and her secret spots, she knows what works, and she can shift her hips a little here or there and pretty much take care of her own pleasure.
But other women have a very hard time EVER reaching orgasm. In fact, recent studies I’ve read say that 1 in 7 women will never know how to orgasm in her life. They won’t know what is orgasm and feels like. And many, many others can’t have orgasm during sex without a vibrator, or can’t have orgasm from intercourse, or take a very, very long time to orgasm, or just can’t have orgasm when YOU are in the room. This last one is maddeningly common.
There are many women who simply can’t have orgasm when they are not alone because they just become too self conscious.
But here is another cold, hard truth about orgasm and secret spots(don’t keep reading if you were hoping I’d only say nice to things to you, because this next one can hurt)
Many, if not most of the women that I’ve interviewed in my research say that they can’t have orgasm with MOST men, but with other men they can come fairly easily.
Usually, they say, they can tell about 60 seconds into sex whether or not you’ll be able to do the trick for her and find her secret spots, and if they realize that you can’t, then no matter how long or how hard you try, she’s just waiting for you to finish up because she is never going to get there.
And do you think that if a woman you are with is having this experience, and she knows she’s not going to have orgasm, that she’s going to TELL you? Is she going to say: “You know Billy, some guys can do it for me, but unfortunately, no matter how long we go at this, you’re not going to be one of them“?
Let me ask you this, if the situation were reversed, would YOU tell HER? Of course not. In fact, most of the time she’ll just “fake it“, pretend to have orgasm, to save your ego and to save herself from having to deal with your insecurities. There is nothing women hate more than, “Did you come yet?”
So let’s talk about how you can make sure that you are never that guy who can’t give her the best orgasm. I’ll give you the big secret right up front: For women, it’s not just WHERE you touch them that makes it work. It’s much more about HOW you touch her and WHO it is that is touching her. So let’s start with the raw basics of secret spots.
WHERE are the best secret spots to stimulate a woman to give her the “Big O“.
If you guessed the clitoris and the g spot, then you get a gold star and you can take a seat at the front of the class.
If you said that you know about a secret spot that is deep inside of her, about 4 inches past the g spot, right where the top wall of the vagina meets the cervix, then you get to move up to the honors class.
It’s called the “anterior fornix“, or the top of the “para-cervical ring“… but she probably just calls it, “Oh my God!”
But why limit yourself to just her vaginal area? Let’s find all her secret spots!
Women can have orgasm from trigger points all over their bodies. The easiest one is the nipples, and all women can learn how to orgasm by nipple stimulation alone. Yes, all women can LEARN to do it!
Where else?
Women can be taught to have orgasm from the nape of the neck, the ear lobes, the insides of the elbows and knees, and the bottoms of the feet. In fact, there is probably not a single square inch on a woman’s body that can’t be considered an erogenous zone (though, I admit, I have never heard of a woman ever having a nose-gasm, but I’ll bet it’s possible). There are secret spots everywhere!
Now if you’ve ever given a woman a foot rub and she DIDN’T have orgasm, then you can probably guess that HOW you touch is her actually far more important than the where.
Now I don’t want to get you upset with me, but I’m afraid I can’t reveal to you exactly how this “how to touch her” works…
And that’s because, like I said before, all women are different. But I can give you some very good guidelines that will help you figure out exactly how to touch the particular woman that you are with and give her the best orgasm.
The first thing you are going to have to do when touching her secret spots is take the time to build excitement. So here is a big tip:
As it turns out, a lot of the “secret spots” on a woman’s body are just ticklish or just plain annoying when she’s not aroused., but those same places on her body, when she’s deeply turned on, can work like magic to quickly bring her to an earth-shaking, screaming orgasm.
So if you can figure out where she is ticklish, you can really surprise her later that night when she is super-aroused and you very gently begin running your tongue along her ticklish spot.
Of course building arousal and creating a mental and emotional state of excitement for her are entire schools of science in themselves, and I’ll have to leave that for a future article.
The second important part of how to touch her is to learn how to “pay attention” and tune in to her body.
When you learn how to become “present” in the moment with a woman and really tune in to her body, her breath, her muscle tension, her sounds and smells, then you become aware of exactly what secrets spots are working and where she likes to be touched.
Not to cop out, but like creating a arousal and excitement, this paying attention is an entire science and much more than I can cover here, so moving along.
Finally, you need to have a sense of rhythm. You can build a lot of excitement and give her endless sensual pleasure just by tuning in and touching her in the places on her body that I listed above.
But to take her past sensual pleasure and give her the best orgasm from this touching, you need to find the rhythm that works, and then STAY with that rhythm.
So many men completely miss this essential part of female orgasmic response (which is unbelievably frustrating to so many women). And even men who do have a sense of rhythm have a bad habit of trying to “sprint to the finish“. That is, when they feel a woman is getting close to a screaming orgasm, they start to speed up and increase the intensity. And by doing this, they stop doing what was working.
Most of the time, the woman that they are with is not even aware of what went wrong. From her perspective, she was getting close to orgasm , she was almost reaching orgasm, the intensity was building… and… then it just sort of fizzled out (just as the guy she was with seemed to be really getting into it too).
A huge number of couples never get past this point, they never decode what is going wrong and why she can’t orgasm.
I strongly recommend you try these simple ideas on secret spots with the woman in your life TONIGHT. I think you’ll be surprised by how instantly powerful using these tips can be.
When you’re ready to take it to the next level… (and, of course, there is ALWAYS a “next level“) you can find a lot more tips and techniques for becoming the man that blows her mind between the sheets by signing up for The Allman Report, my FREE, online newsletter.
